Fall Bucket List

I had debated on whether or not I was going to create a fall bucket list this year, but after pinning things to my “Fall” Pinterest board (which, if you haven’t already, you can read more about these pins here) I decided I would go ahead and make one after all.

So here it is!

We had such a fun time with our summer bucket list this past summer, and although we didn’t finish everything on our list, the fact we even created one helped us to make an effort to get out and do more. I’m looking forward to having some fun this fall!

I hope you all are having a wonderful week so far!

Much Love,

Cami

Social Media Break – Recap

I just finished the end of my social media break last week and I wanted to do follow up on it. I have never taken a break before for various reasons, but I am so glad I did!!

First of all, I was happy to find that it wasn’t as difficult as I thought it would be. I’m not joking, I was pretty much expecting to have withdrawals. That may sound dramatic, and maybe it is, but it’s the truth.

The first day was probably the hardest. I realized that the draw to my phone is more of a bad habit than a need for it. I’m so glad I took the apps off my phone because my thumb automatically opened the folder and clicked where the little blue Facebook icon always is. When I realized what I was doing I quickly put my phone back down.

While I didn’t feel a need for it, I did have to think about what else I wanted to do instead. Let’s just say my house stayed pretty tidy throughout the week!

Here’s the discovery I’m ashamed about the most – how much I ran from the stress and frustration at work. I’ve never paid attention before to how early I would gravitate towards Facebook and Instagram on a work day. My excuse was always “it’s just for a couple seconds”. Even though that’s the case, I didn’t realize how much it was breaking up my focus. I found that I did just fine without it. In fact, I found that I was better off without it at work. While you might be thinking “duh”, I honestly thought it was helping me.

Here’s what I discovered during my break

  • My house stayed more clean and tidy…for the most part (I do have a 2 year old after all ;) )
  • My mind was less cluttered
  • I had more conversations with others
  • I was more focused
  • I didn’t find myself to be as stressed and frustrated while at work
  • I didn’t hit the afternoon slump at 3:00 every day (this was probably the most surprising)
  • I still needed to be intentional with my time and set boundaries with my phone
  • Life still went on

After logging back on to Facebook for the first time after a week, it turns out I did miss some things. There were 2 baby announcements, a few friends had their wedding anniversary, and a friend’s dog passed away. Since only a week had past I was able to easily catch up on everything and it was perfectly acceptable to still comment and react to posts.

I’ve been back to using Facebook and Instagram for a week now and it’s amazing how easy it is to slip back back into some of my old habits. I’m trying to set up boundaries, such as not checking social media first thing in the morning, and limiting my time throughout the day and evening, but I’m finding that to be difficult. It’s all about being intentional.

I definitely plan on taking more breaks. My goal is the first weekend of every month, if not more often than that.

If you have never taken a break from social media, I highly urge you. It felt like a breath of fresh air!

Social Media Break Challenge

I have been noticing more and more how much time I spend on my phone and it’s been nagging at me. The sad part is I feel like it’s truly becoming an addiction.

I mindlessly pick up my phone at any given second and start scrolling through Instagram and Facebook. It doesn’t matter that I scrolled through less than a minute ago.

If I purposefully leave my phone in my purse for 15 minutes I literally start thinking about it and feel pulled to take it back out. My thoughts and excuses range from I’m bored or stressed, to I need a break, and then to “what if I missed something”? I mean, how sad is that?!

What’s more sad is that I have an adorable little boy who picks up my phone and hands it to me when he sees me without it. This is just not okay.

While I don’t want to get rid of my Facebook and Instagram accounts permanently, I definitely need a good break from them…and my phone in general. One weekend just isn’t going to cut it, so I’m challenging myself to take a full week off from my social media apps.

Here’s my plan. And, yes, it’s taking a full blown plan, otherwise I know it’s not going to happen.

Who:

Just me. I’ve heard of couples who have done this together, but I’m the one with the phone problem, my husband doesn’t have the same issue, thankfully.

What:

As we just discussed – taking a one week break from my Facebook and Instagram accounts.

When:

Saturday, July 13 – Saturday, July 20

Where:

Ummm…everywhere – home, work, and while I’m out and about.

Why:

For the reasons explained above

How:

I’ve put a lot of thought into this so here are the steps I’ve come up with

1 – Identify triggers

Since I tend to pull out my phone at any given moment, identifying the areas that trigger my “need” for my phone helps me come up with a plan on how to combat my impulse to reach for it.

2 – Come up with alternative activities.

Obviously I need to come up something to do instead, especially when I’m bored or stressed. I don’t want to replace one addictive activity on my phone for another, such as playing games. I need to look for other alternatives. My ideas are…

  • Pick up a book
  • Chat with a friend or visit with someone in the office (aka invest in real friendships)
  • Pick up an actual camera
  • Simply be in the moment (look around and take it all in – sights, sounds, smells)

3 – Address worry/fears

Ok, this might sounds stupid at first, but what has kept me from taking a break before has boiled down to two reasons: 1 – I might miss important news, 2 – there is a little message when you go to delete the Facebook app that it will delete all its data.

~ A solution to the first worry is to make an announcement on Facebook and/or Instagram that you’re taking a break, so if something big does happen, people know to reach out to you another way.

Honestly, the fact it’s only a week makes it less likely that I’m going to miss something. Even if I do miss something it should be easy enough to catch up.

~ The solution to the second issue was to Google what the message meant. I read that it basically means if you delete the app it will erase any saved passwords and settings you have saved on your phone for that app. So not a big deal. I will make sure that I remember my password and I can always re-set my settings if I need to.

~ Also, if you’re worried about missing reminders for friends birthdays you can always search “Birthdays” in the search bar on Facebook and a list will come up. You can then wish them a happy birthday ahead of time! :)

4 – Delete the apps from my phone.

I know myself way too well, and if I leave the apps on my phone I’m going to “accidentally” click on them, and once I “accidentally” click on them, I’m going to say something like “just this one time”, which will turn into 10. Yeah, no, they’ve got to go.

5. Put my phone away and GO LIVE MY LIFE.

Obviously I still need to use my phone, but I plan on putting it away for much of the week.

While I work, I will keep my phone in my purse that is kept in a drawer. I’ll check for phone calls periodically, mostly because with daycare you just never know. I will open the drawer to take a peek and close it right back up after.

At home I will keep it on the kitchen counter plugged in and the volume turned on so I don’t miss a phone call or text (I don’t get many phone calls or texts, so it’s really not a big deal). If I’m really struggling, I will give it to my husband to hang on to. With the apps completely removed from my device, I don’t think it’s going to be an issue.

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Honestly, I’m looking forward to the break. I’m hoping that through this I will find myself more present in the moment and mindful of my surroundings and the people in my life.

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend!

Much Love,

Cami

Summer Bucket List

Now that it’s June I’m sharing our summer bucket list! I kept it all pretty toddler friendly. And, in case you’re interested, I even made a printable at the end. :)

There are some things I’m personally planning to do this summer that didn’t make it on the list. Such as, sitting in Gryffin’s kiddi pool while sipping on a Mike’s Hard Margarita. #noshame

I’m sure I will think of more things to add to the list as the summer goes on, but I figured this is a good start! I am excited to document and share it all.

I decided to split it up into different categories – so here we go!

Food & Drink

  • Make peach cobbler
  • Make sun tea
  • Bake a cherry pie from scratch
  • Make Root Beer floats
  • Buy from the ice cream truck
  • Roast marshmallows
  • Make homemade salsa and guacamole

Out & About

  • Go to a children’s museum
  • Go to a zoo
  • Visit an aquarium
  • Check out books at the library
  • Go to a farmers market
  • Go to a park with friends
  • Visit an animal shelter
  • Go to a splash pad
  • Go to a baseball game

Fun in the Sun

  • Color with sidewalk chalk
  • Feed the ducks
  • Run through the sprinklers
  • Play with bubbles
  • Have a picnic
  • Play Tee-ball
  • Plant flowers

Rain or Shine

  • Go puddle jumping
  • Play Simon Says
  • Play Red Light, Green Light
  • Build a blanket fort
  • Finger paint
  • Make a bird feeder
  • Make puppets
  • Have a puppet show
  • Make a summer scrapbook

So there you have it! I would love to know what’s on your summer bucket list!

I hope you all have a wonderful Summer!

Much Love,

Cami

February Recap & 2018 Goals

Hello again!  Here I am with my recap of last month!  I know we’re halfway through March, but better late than never!  Seems to be the story of my life lately.  I honestly can’t tell if the month of February went fast or slow??  Gryffin started his new daycare – talk about a challenging transition.  The first day was awful!  I don’t think he’s ever cried so hard before, which of course made me cry too (I at least made it out the door before I lost it).  It seriously took everything in us not to turn around and go back to get him.  Honestly, it felt like I was dropping him off for the first time.  My husband and I both were contemplating just quitting our jobs right then and there.  Thankfully it only took about a week for Gryffin to adjust at Julie’s daycare.  We love Julie.  We loved her from the first day we met her.  She runs an in-home daycare with 2 other ladies.  There are 12 kids total (including her after school kids) and there are 2 other babies Gryffin’s age.  It’s evident that she loves each of her kids and she genuinely cares about the parents as well.

Mikey and I also celebrated our 10 year anniversary, which brings me to the goals for this month!

Goals 

Since Valentines Day was just 2 days before our anniversary I thought it would be fun to celebrate both days this year instead of just our anniversary.  Also, with a baby, our date nights have been almost none-existent and I knew we needed to do something about that.  So here is what I planned for this month.

~ February: Be – Loving 

  1. Celebrate Valentines Day & our anniversary
  2. Reestablish date night

Book of the month: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

* Here is the breakdown and details on how I did.

1.1 – Celebrate Valentines Day  Fail.  Valentines day landed in the middle of the week and it was Gryffin’s first week at daycare, which meant Gryffin wasn’t sleeping well at all and I was beyond exhausted. Thankfully Mikey was in agreement that we would skip it this year.  There’s always next year and we felt that our anniversary was more important.

Mikey still ended up surprising me with a stuffed animal though, so I will be making up for that!

Solution: Try again next year!  Also, since I didn’t get him anything for V day I plan on getting him an Easter basket this year – which we’ve never done in the past for each other. 

1.2 – Celebrate Our Anniversary  Thankfully we planned for this in advance…sort of.  Our anniversary was on Saturday, February 16th, and I took the Friday before off of work so we could have a day together while Gryffin was at daycare.  In addition, we also planned for my brother to watch Gryffin for the afternoon on Saturday so we could go see a movie.

So what was our big plan for Friday?  We went got our taxes done (insert hand to forehead emoji here)!  Honestly, it was just so much easier to do without a squirmy 10 month old.  We then went to HuHot Mongolian Grill, which is one of our favorite restaurants and then just came home and relaxed.  We were seriously laughing though, because over the years we talked about going on an exotic trip or doing something super fun for our 10 year anniversary.  Funny how having a baby changes things, but we wouldn’t trade it for the world!  We hadn’t had a relax together day with just the two of us since we had Gryffin, so honestly, even with getting our taxes done it was glorious.

What about Saturday?  Gryffin ended up getting sick with a cold so we rescheduled our movie date.

2- Reestablish Date night  We ended up going on two dates within a month, which is just so rare.  The first one was the Friday we got to spend together to celebrate our anniversary.  The second was when my brother watched Gryffin a different weekend.  The original plan was to go to a movie, but since we couldn’t agree on a movie we went furniture shopping instead and then out to dinner at Mackenzie River Grill.  We both love to shop and eat so we were happy.

The hard part about date nights at this stage in life is that it’s just not really possible for us to have a date night very often.  We’ll go out just the two of us when we’re able, but we don’t have family or friends that are available very often, so that makes it difficult.  For now our date nights look like an evening at home, eating brownies on the couch and playing Mario Kart, and we’re ok with that.

Solution: Keep doing what we can.

Book of the Month: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.  To be honest, this book hadn’t been at the top of my to-read list.  I had heard about the 5 love languages and I knew what they were, so I wasn’t sure I wanted to spend the time reading something I thought seemed pretty straight forward to me.  After searching for what I should read this month I went ahead and downloaded the audio book anyway. Guys, I am so glad I listened to this book.  Yes, I did know what the 5 love languages were, but I didn’t fully understand them until I read this book.  I ended up learning more about myself as well.  One thing I really appreciated about this book was that there was no threat of “you better do this or else…” type of thing.  I ended this book knowing what ways I can improve my marriage and help Mikey feel more loved.  I’m sorry if that sounds ridiculously cheesy – it’s just that it felt like a lightbulb had gone off and I finally understood.

Stay tuned for the March update!  Let’s just say spring cleaning is *suppose* to be happening around here!  :)

Hope you all had a wonderful February and are having a great March!