Evening Routine (Partial Day in the Life)

Now that my life feels consumed by our new schedule, I thought I would share my daily routines that help me keep up with it all. I love “day in the life” posts, so here’s a little mini half version of mine.

After having a baby, I always wondered how other full-time working moms handled life. How do they get it all done? How do they balance it all? How do they keep from going crazy? This is going to sound dramatic, but I was afraid I was going to absolutely hate life and/or die, if not from the heartbreak from leaving my baby, then from sheer exhaustion of trying to do it all.

I had to take it one day and one week at a time. Every day got a little easier and slowly, but surely, I finally developed a routine and we sunk into a new normal. And guess what…I didn’t (and don’t) hate life. :)

Routines help make sanity possible.

While I don’t have a nursing baby now, I do have a different kind of challenge where I have an active toddler and my husband, who is now going to school full-time and works graveyard, isn’t able to help out nearly as much. All I can say is, preparation is key!

For a quick glance, I have a short run down of my routine. Feel free to keep scrolling for the full detail of my evening, from the moment I get off work to the time I go to bed.

Here’s the quick run down:

  • 5:00 – 5:30: Get off work and pick up Gryffin from daycare
  • 5:45-6:00: Get mail / eat snack
  • 6:00-6:45: 30 minute work out/warm dinner (I batch cook on the Sunday so I don’t have to cook nearly as much during the week. Funny story – I always hated the thought of batch cooking and now I can’t imagine doing it any other way!)/Gryffin watches a show/plays while I work out
  • 6:45 – 7:30: Eat dinner (Gryffin takes forever to eat!)
  • 7:30: Wake Mikey up
  • 7:30 – 7:45: Playtime with Gryffin until bath time
  • 7:45 – 8:15: Gryffin’s bath and bedtime routine
  • 8:15: Gryffin’s bedtime (more on this below)
  • 9:30 – 10:00: Wash dishes/ pack lunch/ pick out clothes and shoes for next day/ jammies/wash face/brush teeth, etc.
  • 10:00 – 10:30: Quiet time (read bible, journal, pray)
  • 10:30: lights out

**Now for the long explanation with all the juicy details!

5:00 – 5:45/6:00

Get off work and go pick Gryffin up. I have a 20-30 minute commute from work to daycare and we’re usually home around 5:45 (sometimes 6:00 if I stay and talk at daycare).

I love that it’s light when I get off work now!

While I don’t like the drive time (I know, I’m lucky compared to some of you!), I find that it at least gives me time to decompress after work. I usually listen to a podcast on my way home. My go-to podcasts are “Happier” with Gretchen Rubin and “What Should I Read Next” with Anne Bogel.

I’ve been a bit behind on the Happier podcast

5:45 – 6:00

Both Gryffin and I are pretty hungry by the time we get home, so we’ll eat a snack to hold us over until dinner. Usually I’ll make a half peanut butter and jelly sandwich or we just have some crackers.

During snack time we usually sit together and I ask Gryffin how his day was and just hang out with each other.

Being silly :P

6:00 – 6:30

I let Gryffin watch a show during this time – usually Blippi or Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. For me, this part varies a little depending on what day it is.

I have started incorporating workouts on Tuesdays and Thursdays, so if it’s one of those days, I will start heating up dinner and workout while it cooks or I’ll throw it together after I’m done working out.

I got some new dvd workouts over Christmas. I switch my workouts between these, Blogilates, and Kathryn Morgan’s
ballet barre’s

If it’s not a workout night, I save the more time-consuming meals for those days and I sit and play with Gryffin for a little bit.

6:45 – 7:30 (sometimes earlier)

Taco night! He knows how to eat those olives right ;)
P.S. Don’t mind his crazy hair.

Dinner time. Anyone else out there have toddlers that take FOREVER to eat?? Gryffin can take up to 45 minutes sometimes. It’s also hard to know when he’s done because he will say “all done” and then immediately start shoveling more food in his mouth the second I go to wipe his hands *sigh*.

Anyway, dinner time ends usually anywhere between 7:15-7:30

7:30 – Wake Mikey Up (sometimes earlier, it just depends)

7:30 – 7:45

Dirty Kitchen / Clean Kitchen

Clean up the kitchen while Gryffin plays. Sometimes I’ll wait to clean the kitchen after Gryffin goes down to bed, but it’s always nice when I get it done early.

7:45 – 8:15

Gryffin’s bedtime routine. Bath, jammies, brush teeth, pick up toys, read a book. Pretty simple.

8:15 – 9:30

Gryffin goes down to bed around 8:15. This part of my night also varies depending on if I’m the one putting Gryffin down to bed. He is very afraid of the dark and has separation anxiety, so bedtime is rough and we usually have to stay with him until he falls asleep (there’s no crying it out, because he gets so worked up that he throws up). Unfortunately he can take forever to fall asleep.

If Mikey’s the one putting Gryffin to bed, I’m up and usually watching a show. Lately I’ve been watching either The Office, or When Calls The Heart on Netflix.

9:30 – 10:00

This is when I start getting ready for bed and Mikey gets ready and goes to work. I wash my face, get my jammies on, pick out my clothes for the next day, and get my lunch ready to go.

I keep my products pretty simple and I’m perfectly satisfied with drugstore brands. The bottle that looks like olive oil is actually jojoba oil. I use it in place of eye cream. It keeps the eye area moisturized and I feel like it helps with dark circles as well.

I am not a morning person at all, so I would much rather do it all at night rather than the morning.

10:00 – 10:30

Quiet time. I do my best to head downstairs right at 10:00 and read my Bible, but occasionally the above routine might take me a bit longer or I get sidetracked with my phone and start scrolling through social media. I’m working on being better disciplined, but for the most part I’m able to stick with this.

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So that’s what our evenings look like. I plan on also do a really short morning routine, and a weekend or Sunday routine as well.

I hope you all have a wonderful week!

Much Love,

Cami

My Thoughts and Struggle with Self-Discipline

“Adulting is hard”. We’ve all heard the phrase. You know…cause it’s a problem for us “millennials”. But really, self-discipline and mounting responsibility is difficult for all of us at any age.

Some people are really great with routines and schedules and have no problem sticking to them, but if you’re like me, while the idea sounds great and wonderful, creating and maintaining those habits is a hard task.

After struggling for the past couple weeks trying to get to bed on time, wake up on time, pick up the house, workout, etc., it didn’t take long for me to realize that I have an awful case of the “I don’t wanna’s” – I don’t wanna workout, I don’t wanna clean the house, I don’t wanna get up…

In the moment, I don’t realize my adult self is acting like a 2 year old. I have become an expert at coming up with logical reasons and excuses to do not the responsible thing.

I figured after becoming a mom that I would be immune to behavior like this. Clearly that is not the case and in some ways it’s gotten worse. I’m incredibly embarrassed to admit this.

My drive is lacking these days. I think part of it is that I’m in a crazy cycle. I stay up late and I wake up tired. I manage to make it through the day only to find that the struggle continues on and on, every day, and every night.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking on how I can break this cycle and I’ve come up with a small plan of action and I think it can be applicable to many situations. Here it is…

~ Start Small

Focus on the one thing that is the most important and go from there.

For me, my #1 priority is going to bed on time and waking up on time. The rest can come later.

~ Be Intentional

You have to think, plan, and take action for what you want to acheive.

This means I have to think and plan around my bedtime. If I want my light out at 10:00 then I better get ready for bed well before 9:59.

~ Sheer Determination

You have to make to make up your mind, right here and right now, that you’re going to _____ (fill in the blank)

I could do everything leading up to my bedtime, but when it comes down to it, I’m still faced with a choice – am I going to shut off light or am I going to say “just 5 more minutes”? I need that sheer determination that I will do this, even if I don’t feel like it.

~ Don’t give up

This is what makes it a routine and helps you do this each and every day. Try, try, and try again until it sticks.

~ Have an Accountability Partner or Mentor

Having someone come along aside you and encourage you is huge! Maybe you know someone else who is struggling with the same problem and you can hold each other accountable- or better yet, maybe you know someone who is really great at achieving what you’re struggling with and is able to help coach you through it.

~ Prayer

I don’t know about you, but I don’t always include God with the small and seemingly insignificant parts of my life. I got to thinking though, God CARES about the small and insignificant parts of our lives. God is in the details both big and small and he wants to be involved with all that we do, not just in the really important parts. Definitely commit it to Him.

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If you struggle with your daily tasks and routines, you’re not alone. I would love to know your thoughts on the issues of adulthood and the struggle of responsibility.

Much Love,

Cami